"Why aren't things like they used to be?"
The answer is, "Because things aren't like they used to be." Only those who understand that each passing moment represents history which can never be repeated, can focus and empower themselves to constantly compete in their personal and professional circles. The word 'compete' is a recognition that 'relevance' matters!
"To be or not to be relevant?" That question is an expansion of Shakespeare's famous question. Our human need is to be relevant. It moves us toward fulfilling our desire to be loved, valued, respected, and regarded as a game-changer. Right?
Now that you have confessed and embraced your desire to be relevant, it's time to check where the competition stands. Once you've done this, you can then work to create a relevant self and approach to displaying the "reinvented you" to those that matter.
Now, don't cop out or coddle yourself with the lame, action-averse thought that people should accept you 'as is.' Like it or not, your today 'as is' either gets better or worse tomorrow! A worse you may be tolerated, but it's not as desired as a better you. This holds true regardless of the type of relationship you are striving for relevance-dating, marriage, parent to child, friendships, job, or team.
Surely, you have heard people say that if you continue to do the same things, you will continue to receive the same results. Well, that statement is wrong! The more you continue to do the same thing, the less relevance you maintain; consequently, your return on investment of time doing the same things, in any part of your life, results in less positive returns or fulfilling experiences.
Jim Rohn says that in order for things to change, you must change. I know, firsthand, that you have the power within you to increase your relevance, but you must grow out of the person you are today.
We've all heard it so many times, whether it's coming from us or somebody we associate with: "I need a change in my life." The problem is that the majority of people never do anything about it. This group of people just continues to complain and deteriorate. Today, you need to commit to walking away from membership in that group of people, forever!
Whatever person or role you want to attract, you must become relevant. You will need to keep your finger on the pulse of your interest in and understanding of where you fit.
For example, if you have a goal of climbing your career ladder, you need to know the most important people in your organization who can assist you. You must learn how to speak to them, and how to develop a relationship with them.
Next, you determine how you can add value to them and the organization. Knowing how to continuously support their needs should drive your behavior and move you to the point of relevance, or high value. Your personal relationships should follow the same process.
My challenge for you this week:
Make a list of people with which you desire to have a position of relevance.
Write down ways that you can provide support for their personal or professional desires.
Commit to engaging in the above supportive acts weekly, then assess your behavior of these acts at the conclusion of each week.
By following these steps, you will be taking the actions you need to take so that you can advance your relevance to relevant people.