We all tell ourselves little lies that help us get through each day... but do they help us get through life? No. They don't. When you're honest and authentic with yourself, you can be authentic with others, allowing you to break through barriers to become your best self in every area of your life.
So what are these little lies we tell ourselves? The ones that ultimately hold us back. Take a look, and see if any of these sound familiar.
"Other people can't be trusted with my goals." Are you afraid to tell people about your goals and plans? About the big changes you want to make in your life? About the new ventures you're about to embark on? Don't be. You'll be surprised at how much support you will get - and if anyone gives you pushback, you'll know who to stay away from in the future.
"Work sucks." Not if you're doing work you love. And isn't that your goal? Look for the ways in which your current situation is preparing you for the future you dream about, and lean into those. Try telling yourself that you love your job, and see if it gives you the attitude boost you need.
"It's all too hard." Yes, achieving things can be hard. But there's a big difference between "hard" and "too hard." Think about how hard you worked to conquer that perfect three-point shot when you were a kid. It didn't seem hard because you wanted to achieve it, and because of the thrill you got when you succeeded.
"No one ever really changes." Nonsense. You know this isn't true if you look around at your own friends and family. You've seen alcoholics stop drinking. You've seen people stop sowing wild oats and settle down to love their families. You've seen people get off the coach, lose weight, and run marathons. People change. And you can be one of those people.
"I don't deserve it." Maybe this is something you learned from your family growing up. If so, that's an unfortunate thing, but it's a little lie that you can move past when you stop repeating it to yourself. Here's the truth: If you work for something, you deserve it. Period. Even if you win the lottery, unlikely as that is, you bought the ticket. You deserve what you get.
"It's not the right time." Maybe that's actually true. But stop and consider before you believe it. Here's the way to approach this issue: Ask yourself when is the right time? If you have an answer to that question, then start planning for that time. If you don't have an answer, chances are you're using it as an excuse.
Stop telling yourself these little lies! When you stop telling yourself little lies, you will open the door to a new future filled with positive, authentic decisions. You can do it. All it takes is a little bit of honesty.
My challenge for you this week:
Be honest with yourself so that you can identify the lies that you've been telling yourself:
Write down the lies you tell yourself.
What action can you take to defeat these lies?
For each lie, set a timeline to start working on them.
Reward yourself with an inexpensive gift every week you win the battle against the lies you have been telling yourself.