We talk a lot in these articles about never giving up, about how important it is to always keep trying, and putting everything you have into everything you do. We also talk about not making excuses and not giving yourself permission to fail.
There is a flip side to that coin. Sometimes in life, you have to know when it is time to quit and when you should move on to better things. I'm not talking about chasing your dreams or working hard to get what you want out of life. I'm talking about those things and those people who are, at best, holding you back and, at worst, dragging you down.
It amazes me how many otherwise intelligent people hold on to things they know are holding them back or even destroying them.
With all the help that is available today, why would you stay with someone who mentally, physically, or emotionally abuses you?
Why would you keep someone in your life that continually drains you emotionally or financially?
Why would you keep people in your life that are always negative and playing the blame game?
They aren't going anywhere in life and they don't want you to either.
Why would you hang out at the local courts or poolroom when you could be taking a class or reading a book that could improve your life or advance your career?
Why would you be hanging in a bar or hair salon wasting air, when you could be holding your kids, hugging your spouse or, heaven forbid, improving yourself?
I'll give you two reasons that people stay in bad situations. You may not like them but they are the truth:
People keep "Negative Nancies" in their lives because it is easier to gripe about their lives than to change them.
Here is another little truth you don't want to hear...
Those people, you think are friends, don't want you to have a successful life. It throws light on their laziness and lack of drive. For them, it is better to wallow as a group in self-pity or rant about things that happened hundreds of years ago, than to have the courage to try alone.
There is only one person who can change your life. That is you. There is only one person responsible for your life. That is you. You can listen to all the excuses that society, history, or your so-called friends give you and stay where you're at, or you can walk away and make your own way.
Don't allow negative people in your life. If you have them there now and they won't change, you have to. Throw them to curb and walk away. You have to have the courage to know when it is time to let go so that you can quit wasting your time and energy!
My challenge for you this week:
Take the following "people of influence" assessment.
Make a list of people you have regular contact with that negatively influence your spiritual, mental, and physical states.
For each person, determine whether or not they add value to your life or contribute to your life advancement.
For those that don't add value or make no, or very little, contribution to your life, you need to significantly reduce or eliminate the amount of time that you interact with them.
The remaining people on your list must be made aware of your desire to approach life from a positive, unlimited perspective.
Are you ready to take the assessment? Get started today and you will be on your way to eliminating those things that are dragging you down and keeping you from being the type of person you want and need to be!