The Most Common Dream Killer
Well, we are nearing the end of the first month of 2018! Many of us craved the start of January as an opportunity to ensure that the new year got off to a great start and that the positive changes we made would be preserved throughout the year.
Unfortunately, many of the folks I have talked to are already starting to slip back into the routine habits of 2017--habits which did not serve to advance their life as they so desired.
Do you fall into this common situation? If so, it's time to take a time out and realize that you have the ability to take charge of your life.
I know that you have goals set for the year, but let me bring you in on a secret. Here it is: You may be the victim of self-sabotage!
Self-sabotage in the form of procrastination may be what is killing your dreams! Additionally, your excuse of blaming others for your unproductive use of time to address your personal and professional goals is likely a procrastination addiction.
Yes, it is human nature to procrastinate. In fact, evolutionary biologists say that procrastination may be hardwired into our DNA because as animals we are both hunter-gatherers and grazers. This means that procrastination, or idling over something, actually activates our pleasure centers.
Here are some examples of some common procrastination activities:
Common examples include window-shopping and browsing Facebook or YouTube. Watching television is another time killer, as is having anxiety about the future.
Worry and Despair
Some people get addicted to despair and use worry as an excuse for not accomplishing things in life. Worry is the drug they use to get their adrenalin going in the morning, but then they can't stop the cyclical thoughts of anxiety and anticipation that prevent them from being efficient.
Maintaining obsessive, go-nowhere relationships with people that contribute nothing to helping you advance our goals is what I consider to be a procrastination activity. Spending time directing jealousy or resentment at people who have hurt us in the past also count as procrastination activities. You can hate all you want but this will not help you get ahead in life any faster. All of the wishing that things were more fair will not make it so.
Remember, you can't change other people...you can only change yourself! Blame is a time-wasting game. All of the clichés are right when it comes to the subject of procrastination, including the one that goes "your past does not equal your future."
So in a way you can say that successful time management is not just about taming your brain--it can also be about training your emotions. Do not go through your day ruled by your feelings, or the feelings of others. Once it starts, it snowballs. As each minute, hour, and day goes by, it becomes harder and harder to get back on track.
My challenge for you this week:
Combat procrastination and stop self-sabotage:
Prior to bedtime every night, write down the three main things you want to achieve the next day to advance your personal and professional goals. Start tonight and continue this exercise every night.
Upon waking up, pick up and read your bedtime note. Your note must be read prior to checking your cell phone for callers, email, or text messages.
Affirm your plan by saying: "I am going to achieve my three main goals today!"
Take your note with you and review it throughout the day to stay on track.
So if you want to make sure that you are not the victim of the most common dream-killer, get started today with this week's challenge and combat procrastination in your life!