In almost every one of my articles, I share advice providing different methods you can use to improve your life. I have talked about planning for success, educating yourself, and developing yourself spiritually, mentally, and physically. I have passed on bits of wisdom from the past and tried to teach you how to seek out wisdom, not just knowledge, on your own.
In this week's article, I want to talk to you about the one thing that ties it all together, yet many people are lacking. What is it? Love! Now I'm not talking about romantic love or parental love. I'm talking about love of self. You may think you love yourself but actions speak louder than words and I'm telling you that there is an extreme shortage of self-love.
Think about these examples:
If your child is sick, you are going to take them to the doctor. You’re going to find a way to buy the medicine they need and you are going to make sure they get it by the schedule prescribed. WHY? Because that is your baby and you love them.
If your parent is in bad health, you will nag them about their diet. You will shoot holes in any excuses they offer for not living healthier. WHY? Because that is your momma or daddy and you care about them.
If you own a dog, you will take it for walks, feed it the best you can, and when it is sick you will take it to the vet, buy its medicine, and get up in the middle of the night if that is what it takes to make it well again. WHY? Because it is your friend and you cherish it.
Now, can you say you give the same attention to yourself? For example...
Do you watch your diet, exercise, and stay away from things and people you know are bad for you?
Do you always listen to what your doctors tell you to be doing or take the medications they prescribe for you to take?
Do you use your intuitiveness, or gut feelings, to guide your actions?
If you said "No" to any of these, WHY NOT? It’s funny that we usually sense when something or someone is right or wrong for us, yet actions do speak loader than words!
It is not easy to love yourself. We all know our own shortcomings. We all know our own dark little secrets. We all know how unlovable we can act.
If you want to know real happiness, learn to forgive and overlook those little things you don't like about yourself, then work on changing them if they are holding you back from the life you dream. You need to give yourself the same loving care you would give to your child, your parent, and your pet.
My challenge for you this week:
Practice the routine of giving yourself loving care.
On a scale of 1-5 (1=not well, 5=very well), rate yourself on how well you demonstrate love for yourself, spiritually, mentally, physically, and in relationship with others.
If you scored less than 5 in any area, you have some intentional work to do.
For each of the four areas, list ways you can demonstrate love for yourself by committing to consciously engaging in actions to improve yourself.
Let’s use the remainder of the month of December 2018 to practice making time to love ourselves!