You Need to Use Your Head!
I, as well as most others in my field, often stress the importance of finding your passion and following your heart. I stand by those words, because there is no surer way to find happiness and lead a purposeful life than to put an honest effort into something that you truly enjoy. As Mark Twain said, "Find a job you enjoy doing, and you will never have to work a day in your life."
However, it had been brought to my attention that, possibly due to differences in culture and how certain words are used by different people, that "follow your heart" can be misinterpreted. Some were taking it to mean that you need to listen to how you feel emotionally rather than thinking logically. This is a big mistake! God gave us brains for a reason.
Many times, I counsel people who are in bad relationships who cry and scream about the abuse they suffered. They lament that they "can't leave" because they love their partner.
Many times, I talk with people who "can't give up bad habits" because they love the way it makes them feel or hate the way they feel when they quit.
Many times, I see people who get in way over their heads financially because they buy a car or house that they love at first sight.
See a pattern here? These are all instances where people are following their emotions rather than using their heads.
There was a car I once owned that was costing me a fortune in repair costs. One day, I was faced with a very uncomfortable choice: either (1) pay the mechanic or (2) buy groceries. It was at that time that I realized that I had become emotionally attached to a chunk of steel and plastic, so the decision was made to get rid of that car for one that was less expensive. Thank goodness I matured! Yes, I still like nice cars, but now, I make sure I can afford them before making a purchase.
I'm not saying you should be cold and unfeeling, like some kind of machine, but you should learn to recognize your emotional responses and temper them with logical thought.
You should ask yourself a simple question: WHY?
Why am I doing this?
Why am I buying this?
Why am I with this person?
"Why" is a powerful tool that you should always have in your hand. As I always say, knowing your "why" gives you a sound foundation to act upon.
My challenge for you this week:
Challenge your thinking.
List some of the bad choices you have made in your life.
Write down whether those choices were made as the result of logical or emotional thinking?
List some of your biggest successes.
Write down whether they were made from logical or emotionalthinking?
I will bet that when you analyze the two lists, your logical thinking led you to make better choices and to experience better outcomes.
Carpenters say "measure twice, cut once". I say, "think twice, then decide". It makes no sense to rush into making an emotional decision that will only prove to be costly over time!